To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.
― Anthon St. Maarten
According to the world, I am intensely weak in many ways. I truly feel – I mean, I cry at just about anything. And for a long-time I thought I was just that…weak. I thought I was too emotional, I thought I was ‘too much’ for others to handle, I thought I would simply crumble under the weight of the world around me.
It’s only in the more recent years that I have learned to truly, truly love my sensitivity. It is one of my favourite things about myself. It is my power. To me, truly feeling is the most beautiful thing possible. I am forever grateful, each and every day, that my heart is so damn open to this world. To this beautiful world. I get to feel it all.
Why I love being highly sensitive, and why you should too:
1. I see the magic in everything
If you truly open your heart, you will see there is magic in everything. And as a sensitive person, you already know this – because you can feel all of it.
Sitting in nature and feeling an immense amount of love and joy from a simple flower is something I am blessed to be able to experience on a daily. Seeing the love and beauty in another and have that love and beauty soak into my very essence is something I am blessed to be able to experience on a daily. Having my heart fill with gratitude at the simple thought of being alive is something I am so, so blessed to be able to experience, daily.
If your heart is so open to life that you soak everything around you into yourself, you are the strong one. You are strong enough to remain open and vulnerable to whatever is thrown your way. You are the true warrior. I hope you are proud. And I hope you are in love with this part of you, and grateful – because with this openness comes the opportunity to feel all the magic. To feel all the love. To feel all the goodness and wander and beauty and sparkle.
2. I truly feel and connect with others
I have always been highly empathic. I truly feel the love, the pain, the emotion, the life in others around me. I truly connect with others around me. And to tell me connecting with another on such a real and open level could be a weakness is complete craziness to me.
We are our own beautiful individual selves, but, we are one. We are one. What you feel, I feel. If you grow, I grow. If you love, I love. And this is beautiful. This is life. This connection, to me, is also the foundation for uplifting and helping others – how could you possibly help without understanding?
If you are closed off, if your heart is not open to another, or, others – you will not ever experience this oneness and you will never truly and deeply connect with another. Is this strength? Or is seeing yourself in another strength – looking past their ego and mistakes – into their soul. Having the ability to understand, connect with and uplift – this is strength.
For this, I am grateful. For this, I hope you are too.
3. I can truly experience life
That’s what we’re here for, right? To have this crazy, beautiful, messy, magical, overwhelming human experience. We are here to feel it all, to experience it all, to learn, to fall, to break, to heal. And this is what I intend on doing – diving head first into this human experience that I am so incredibly blessed to be having.
I have no reason to fear emotion – it is why I am here. I have no reason to fear breaking down – I was made for exactly this. To be human is to feel. You may as well experience it all while you are given the chance.
To the sensitive souls reading this – you are the true essence of this life. You are what keeps the beauty alive. I hope, if not already, you can learn to cherish this beautiful part of you – because I truly do.